There was a time in my life when I thought I knew everything there was to know about myself… fortunately I got older and realized there are a lot of things we can’t know until we live them. But I also realized that there are some things that can be know with or without experiencing them ourselves. The trouble with being human is most of us have to live things before we believe them.
One thing I’ve realized is all of our relationships in life either mature with us or fade away. We are constantly changing as people. No matter how set in our ways we think we are, we have to change with our environments and as the lives of those around us change. Relationships, no matter what level they are on – parent/child, grandchild/grandparent, brother/sister, best friends, childhood friends, drinking buddies… they have to change.
There are times when we fall away from people in our lives and later we wonder what happened. Just like romantic relationships people drift away, interests change, opinions change, life happens to us as we live. Each stage of our lives we should be learning from our relationships, both those we maintain and those we don’t.
Looking at our relationships with people can show us sides of ourselves we wouldn’t know about alone. Each friend we have in life represents something about who we are, what we like, what we believe to be the truth at that time in our lives. They teach us what we think about ourselves, how we feel about who we are. What’s more, our interactions with those people and the way we let them treat us speaks to our own opinions and views about who we are as well.
Our connections with people aren’t chance. People come into our lives at different times and under different circumstances. Those relationships are directly related to who we are at that moment and what we believe we are, how we feel about ourselves, what we think we deserve in life, how we think we deserve to be treated… the list is endless. The relationship mirror is a very powerful tool. We can use it to view ourselves from the outside and gain greater insight into who we are, who we were, and who we want to become.