There are so many people who talk a big game, but when it comes right down to it, they have absolutely no substance. These are the used car sales people in life, always promising something better than what they have or they can give, only to let you down. The unfortunate truth is that most people don’t pay any attention to this because it’s become a societal norm. We as Americans in general talk a big game, but for a vast majority of people there is never any follow through.
I’m guilty of this as well, it’s very easy to tell someone we’re going to do something and forget forever you made that verbal commitment to them. I had to work a lot on this previously in my life, but now that I hold myself to what I say I find it’s much easier. Simple things like telling a friend you’ll call later, or saying you should get together for coffee or lunch – these things erode the foundation of the expectation we put on ourselves to follow through with things.
Since I’ve become aware of this pattern in my life, whether it’s my lack of action or that of someone else, it’s been much easier to change. Now that I’m aware of it I’m surprised by the people who do this, but don’t realize it. There are some people who are habitually over promise things to others and always under deliver. While we are all responsible for this at some point or another, there are people who employ this habit every day. It’s tragic and amazing at the same time seeing one of these people in action.
I don’t think this is something we intentionally do, although there are some out there who schmooze as a way of life. Telling you what you want and need to hear just to fulfill their own agenda. I typically avoid people of this nature, as they are simply all talk and no action. Although they are easy to spot, there are others who walk the line and are less easily spotted, and typically you don’t realize it until it matters.
I have one simple proposition for this post: always do what you say you’re going to do, and don’t tell anyone you’re going to do something unless you really intend to follow through with it. I think you’ll be amazed at how much we as a society make empty commitments to those we love, not only those we are generally acquainted with. Start with the people who are closest to you, remember what you tell them you’re going to do and see how often you’re really following through with it.